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Self-confidence and self-esteem building course in Hong Kong

Learn how to reduce anxiety and stress and improve performance in various tasks and social situations

I want to feel more self confident - a job interview mistake and how to avoid it

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A typical mindset when people go to an interview or when they come to my interview preparation course is that their main goal is to become more confident in the interview. This is not a job winning mindset.

It focuses inwards to the self instead of the interaction with others. It also emotion oriented and not action and result oriented. It implies that the candidate thinks that they are not good enough so why should the interviewer think differently.

The solution is not working and concentration on improving the confidence issue but accepting ourselves as we are and working on our skills, techniques and mindsets and in the interview engaging with other people. So forget yourself and focus outwards and your self-confidence problem will disappear.

Course objective

The overall outcome of this self confidence improving training is that you will feel more relaxed and less stressful in various social situations like work, presentation, new relationships, job interview, audition, English speaking, public speaking etc. Thus, your overall performance and relationships with people will improve.

In the first stage of self-confidence enhancement your negative emotions will be less frequent and less intensive and you learn how to monitor and control your thoughts and body.

As a second stage, you will gradually experience more positive emotions and confidence where you felt stress before. You may even enjoy getting exposed to those situations and will have more energy.

If you reach the final stage, self-confidence will not be an issue at all, including positive confidence. You will not focus on yourself and your feelings any more but on other people and the task on hand. Your self-centred, inward orientation will be gradually replaced with an outward one.

You will not think much of how other people may judge you and you will give up the need to control and manipulate what they think of you. You will give them the freedom to dislike you or your performance. Their criticism will be a useful feedback and inspiration to improve yourself.

Self-confidence building

How to handle dead air in a conversation: topics, self esteem, meditation, being interested

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Dead air in a conversation is when you feel uncomfortable when neither you nor the other person you are with do not talk. One component of this is that you do not have much topics to talk about. In this case become more interested in the world generally and read, travel, communicate more. And in the conversation be interested in the topics that come up and in your partner.

Ask questions, open up yourself, relate what they say. So be really interested in many things and people. Dead air can be the result of low self-esteem and you may think what you do not have value to offer. Work on it. One way is get rid of the idea that communication is about sharing useful information. Focus on the emotional side instead of the informational, logical one. Try to have a good time with the other person.

Also, if you are afraid of dead air, you may have a more general problem of afraid of emptiness. Try meditation, empty your mind. Just sit and do nothing, no listening or watching. Just enjoy the moment.

Training method

The lessons are a combination of classroom learning, consultation and coaching. It is a one-to-one or small group private course in English.

The main focus is mindset level change about how to see the world, yourself, other people and the job you might perform. You will also develop or improve various skills and techniques. Here are some areas that might come up during the course:

  • emotion and stress management, EQ, understanding the causes of emotions especially stress, anxiety,
  • practising self-awareness, monitoring your emotions,
  • understanding human psychology and how the mind works,
  • replacing fixed mindset with growth mindset,
  • understanding human needs and motivations,
  • learning how to pay attention and control your body, for instance, your breathing, tension and body language.

Self-esteem and self-confidence related modules

Beyond the core self-confidence module, we can go through some closely related modules, too, that can help improve your performance in social situations. Here are some of the related courses / modules:

  • assertive thinking and behaviour development,
  • communication skills,
  • relationship skills, e.g. dating skills,
  • job interview skills,
  • marketing and sales skills,
  • presentation and public speaking,
  • leadership.

These skills will help you to relate to people better, understand them and express your ideas in a well-structured, meaningful and enjoyable way.