English communication skills course: how to influence people and connect to them
Face-to-face private training in Hong Kong
We provide two types of communication training:
1, If you want to learn English language at any level, please visit our www.englishlessonhk.com web site for more information.
2, Communication theory, strategy, influencing skills, relationship building etc. You can read about this type of lessons on this page and the other pages of this whole communication web site. This is advanced level stuff and requires good English.
As you learn more and more and update your mind set, skill set and communication techniques, the response you get from people will change and your power to influence them increase. Don't abuse it.
We are all programmed biologically, socially and individually. When you study and understand how these levels of programming work for people generally, for people that belong to a specific group (culture) and for the particular individual you're talking to, you will have the opportunity to leverage on it and achieve your communication goal with more success.
If your English is not good enough to effectively communicate with the teacher in the class or you just want to improve your English but not to learn about the communication (theory, techniques, strategy, style etc.), you can take our English foundation course.
A myth about communication
Most people probably have never thought or learned about the essence of communication even though we talk, listen, write and read all day long. We just naturally do these without really understanding how they work.
The implicit model most people use is very simple: I have an idea, I encode it into language and sent it to the another person. They decode my message and understand it as I intended. Of course, it doesn't work like that.
No wonder why there is so much miscommunication and misunderstanding between people.
In the course you are going to learn a more complex model that will increase your power to influence people more effectively.
Just as an example, we don't hear what others say. We filter out information, we delete, ignore, modify and distort it according to our believes, knowledge, assumptions and expectations. These are formed by our unique life experiences and cultural backgrounds.
Culture is one of the invisible factors that influences the effectiveness of our understand of each other.
Culture is simple the way people in a group live their lives and interact. We all belong to multiple relatively stable groups: family, friends, school, work place, neighbourhood, nation, country. We also have from time to time a temporary identity and behave according to the cultural expectations: as customers, passengers, patients, hotel guests, tourist etc.
The values, traditions, customs, expectations, etc. are different from group to group. And this is one of the sources of misunderstanding, arguments and conflicts.
Since early childhood we automatically learned the schemas that we subconsciously apply in different situations. That is the cultural learning and behaviour. Learning the specifics of other cultures is one element of better communication.
Rational arguments vs emotional impact
Another topic that comes up during the lessons is our automatic belief and practice that we use rational arguments, data, information and logic to communicate with others and except an impact or reaction. Usually it does not work.
Relationship and emotions first. The content of your message will not have the desired outcome until the other person is in a mental, emotional and physical state that they can and want to understand you and until they trust you and like you enough. This topic is related to Maslow's hierarchy of needs.